I have mega-anxiety, with depression mixed in for funsies. Sometimes, it’s altogether too much, and I don’t want to do anything. I know what I should do, but it doesn’t matter. The best physical way to describe the feeling: like having a to-do list in your hand and a shackle on your ankle, while someone yells “You suck!” at you repeatedly (Also, this all takes place in a sauna). We all have different triggers: your body, your intelligence, your family, your financial situation, your past, your present, your future…I could go on forever. There is literally no end to the things we can think about that will make us feel like total crap. So what can we do to make it better?
Seriously – Ask for help if you need it!
I want to start by saying if your anxiety is unmanageable and by that I mean, you cannot go about your day-to-day life without anxiety impeding: you should consider seeing a therapist or psychologist. You can find one in your area here. If you’re nervous about finding a doctor, be sure to look at their specialities, and see who suits your situation best. Research and trial is the best way to find someone who can help you become the best you. There’s no shame in wanting to be happy.
You can’t just keep it all inside. You will literally explode.
Your personal explosion may happen in line at the grocery store, and it may happen while you’re talking to your significant other on the phone. You may even be like me, and lash out at yourself. You have to stop that, because it leads to nowhere good. Self-care is something you simply must make time for. You may want to take an hour, you may want to take 5 minutes, but you have to take time to show yourself that you matter. You need to get that crappy feeling out of your body somehow.
Here are a few things you can do at the end of your day to help process your emotions:
There is SO MUCH VALUE in keeping a journal.Write lists of things you’re grateful for, even if you don’t FEEL grateful at the moment. Your journal doesn’t have to be words and stories either – you can draw, make collages, tear out pages and set them on fire (be careful, of course!). Even if you just scribble a circle, that’s progress if it makes you feel better.
If you don’t feel like being artsy, you can always help someone out. Maybe make dinner for your family or friends. Volunteer with special needs adults, or help in a soup kitchen. There are volunteer opportunities everywhere. Donate a few dollars to a charity or Go Fund Me. Take your pet for a walk, or hang out with your cat while they curl up in the sun. Tidy up your house for future you. Get your significant other a bottle of wine, a nice card, and a back rub. Doing these things may not solve your problem, but it will allow you to know that you did something kind for someone else, and it will build your self-esteem.
I know everyone will hate this but: WORK OUT. Exercise releases the endorphins that make you happy. You don’t have to do a traditional workout, either. You can go play wander around your neighborhood and snap photos on your phone, or go climb at a rock wall gym (The one near me pretty much always has a Groupon available). I also really love Yoga. Sticking to a workout schedule also allows you to accomplish “wins” every time you work out. Little successes build up to big successes!
This one is very indulgent, and it may sound a little crazy: Take a princess day. What is that, you might ask? Clear your schedule and kick back. Act as if the king and queen are handling everything and go be a princess who has nothing to do. Go take a loooong bath. Read trashy magazines or whatever. Paint your nails. Watch your favorite movie. Wear your nicest pajamas. Light some candles and lounge. Treat yourself like you deserve good things; You do!
All in all, it’s just important that you realize that you matter, and that you deserve the same love you dish out for everyone else.
What do you do to combat the blues?